Question by smile:): PLEASE HELP!!!!! complicated issue what is best for the child?
i have ask this a few times but really need a few more opinions and answers
My sister recently died and her husband disappeared a few hours after she was killed, leaving me in to care for their new born baby. more information on this: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
please read the other question to get a better understanding of the situation I’m in.
My brother in law returned about two hours ago and he is extremely out of it, he has been drinking and i am very sure he has been taking drugs as well. he has now crashed out in his bed. i looked though his bag and found lots of drugs, several pills some white powder i think is coke but could be drone and some other stuff. I am not a stranger to drugs or drug takers, so I know how to deal with this side of him, but he has been missing for four days only to come back and throw up on me. I know he used to smoke spliffs when he was younger but rarely and i have never seen him this way. his wife died four days ago so i know it is a form of escapism but he is in a worse way then i have ever seen anyone be. as you will know from the other question which you should read to answer this question properly my sisters friend is around morning for the loss also, he is out at the moment but i know the moment he returns they will fight. I really don’t know how to look after the child in this situation, this is very short term and i cannot think about the long term right now. the most important thing is my niece. Should i remove the child completely from this situation until her father gets better? I have no right to be able to do that but i think i might have to. she is not my child she is his so i really can’t make any decisions. What can I do???????

i grew up in care and have had some really bad experiences, what happened to me is really rare and very unlikely but care is the last place i would put my niece.

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Answer by creamfeather
I think you if you tell him that you want to take care of your niece for a short while he will probably be releived that someone is willing to take on the reponsibility for her. This will give you all breathing space to see what happens next.

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by PeterTea

Question by family guy: help poor buby is crying like hes in pain?
ok our new born son samuel is now 2 weeks old and so far been a pretty good bub e.g (feeding well haveing regular nappie changes sleeps well ect) but for the last week he seems to burst out every now and then when hes asleep like hes in pain he also started to loose his voice 2days ago wich was unusual because we never let him cry for long.So we did what most parents do and we took him up to the royal childrens hospital and they checked him out and said hes fine no temp no other problems the only thing the doctor put it down to was that he might be getting reflux but we have never seen him throw up. We where wanting some advice as to whether any other parents have had this problem before so we can have some idea as to why our baby boy is doing this as it wrenches our hearts to not know if hes doing this because hes in pain or if its something new borns do. my wife is also breast feeding and we have another son but he is 5yo so were kind of learning things over again thankyou 4 any help

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Answer by alyssamichelle
It could be a couple of things. When my son was a newborn, he would cry out when he was gaseous. What we did (after we asked the pediatrician) was give him the recommended dose of those infant gas drops and moved his legs like he was riding a bicycle. Then, we moved his legs up by his tummy (carefully). Sometimes this helped him to relieve the gas or to help him have a BM.
You should ask your pediatrician, but if babies have reflux, there is a special formula just for babies with reflux. I know your wife is breastfeeding, so it’s only a suggestion.
Definately schedule an appointment with the pediatrician and see what he/she offers for advice. Good luck and I’m so sorry that you all are going through this. It’s so difficult to watch a baby in pain.

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by jvoves

Question by Dani is a milf (UK): i think i’m going to have to make a decision, please everyone help?
here’s the choice, i do one thing that might make my bf unhappy and in turn make me unhappy or do the only other thing and make myself completely and utterly depressed…

i know you’ll need more info but this goes against every piece of moral standing i have…
i think i’m pregnant, not too sure, but i’m already a mum and have had 3 miscarriages so i guess i know i am. anyway my problem is this, we can barely afford to keep the 3 of us alive as it is, since my bf started working we have so much to pay and no help what so ever in terms of money etc, our daughter isn’t even two yet and is already throwing tantrums and she really doesn’t like it when other people steel her attention (she isn’t spoiled at least we’ve never spoiled her) we live in a 2 bedroom flat and we have to be here for another 18 months, otherwise we can’t get another council place (can’t afford private), my partner doesn’t think it’d be a good idea having another one just yet and tbh i kinda agree with him, he’s worried about how i’d be if i had a new born and a toddler in a 2 bedroom flat with no money to see anyone etc. plus with how much my daughter cost me as a new born added to how much she does now my partner would have to work 13 hours a day, every day and i’d have to work 12 hours a day every day for us to stay aloft… i wouldn’t be able to put it up for adoption from my fathers experience (if you heard the stories you’d feel the same) and i can’t even think about the other A word without crying. what on earth can i do? ‘all you need is love’ and enough money to make that love worth anything.
i’ve always wanted to be a mum, talk about a kick in the f-ing teeth.

btw i am on birth control, but it makes me really ill, i’ve thrown it up a couple of times. i haven’t done a test yet, as i don’t have the money to buy one, nor to get the 3 buses to the nearest family planning.
BC question:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnBem0WeVlIw.lTfDfT3qBnsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081104202149AAteVEN
i did use protection, i took my pill, if you read my other q you will see why condoms are no good, and i don’t believe in abstinance.
already tried getting a loan, my mum will not want to see me if she finds out and his parents have no money
here in the uk the cheapest one in our local store is £5.99, and that is the equivlant of a meal for our daughter
other Q http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnBem0WeVlIw.lTfDfT3qBnsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081104202149AAteVEN
oh and trust me our budget is streched to breaking point £340 every two week is not enough for a family

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Answer by kay
your two year old can have her room and put the newborn’s crib or whatever there are smaller forms of beds in with your room… and get on WIC they provide the forumla if not breast feed its free.. there is no excuse if you knew you were not finacianly stable to add another addition to your family you should have used protection.. i do apologize for your miscarriages but i believe you will be fine with this child, if not adoption is a choice just please do not abort!

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by stealthtractor

Question by Ciana’s mommy: My baby just had projectile vomiting, HELP PLEASE..?
My daughter is 4 months old. For the past 3 days she has been very sweaty and very fussy. Today, she was eating and when I was burping her, all of a sudden damn near the entire bottle was all over the kitchen floor, down my back and all over her. This never happened before. I gave her 2 ounces of pediatlite and I am taking her to the drs tomorrow morning. I just was wondering if this siutation happened to anyone and if so, what happened and how did you handle it? did it get better??

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Answer by Karina
Babies have small stomachs. It’s nothing to worry about. But if she seems to not be reacting well to the formula switch to soy formula. Some kids are allergic to dairy.

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by NiteLynx

Question by * ALaiNa’S MoMMy * 7/1/10: My baby is throwing up after nursing sometimes, help!!?
My daughter Is almost a month old now, and sometimes she throws up after nursing. I don’t mean spit up, she does that on a regular basis but it doesn’t worry me. What worries me is when she throws up like that girl off the exorsist. She’s done it every now and then, and always when I’m slightly engorged. But she’s been gaining weight good and everything. Everyone says it’s no big deal tht she’s just getting too much. Well I need to figure something out because I can’t handle being thrown up in like that all the time. I’m about ready to go to fully pumping. The major reason is because this morning she did it and I had her in her newborn mapper. It gagged her and even came out her nose. Scared the crap out of me! What if I had already fallen back to sleep?!? Please help! I want to breast feed but I don’t want to endanger my daughter in any way!

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Answer by Allie
I would go to your pediatrician

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